Nine years ago, I almost died from shame.
I was assaulted, stalked, psychologically abused and publicly humiliated. When I tried to fight back, I was put on trial for being a slut. The harasser sent 40 lascivious pictures of me to my friends, family, and classmates. He wrote letters and emails telling everyone all the ways in which I was a total whore. Jury Awards Former Escort $1.7 Million For Invasion Of Privacy
“I was put on trial
for being a slut.”
The stress from this trauma kept me in a prison of fear and self-criticism so debilitating, I wanted to be dead.
Daily life did not feel doable. I hated what I saw in the mirror. I was constantly afraid of being “found out” and constantly afraid someone was trying to hurt me. Normal tasks like going to the grocery store felt intolerable.
The cognitive load of carrying a secret kept me from truly engaging with people around me.
PTSD made me an irritable lunatic. I was barely living.
When I couldn’t find a book to help me with my problem, I began writing my own advice. I wrote about how not to care what people thought of you. I wrote about falling in love with yourself as you are.
“Until you’ve lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was or what freedom really is.”
I wrote about falling in love with yourself
just as you are.
I wrote about conquering all the little stressors that can add up to make you miserable, and how to live in precisely this moment--not with irritability, but with peace. I hodge-podged together brain science, mindfulness meditation, and self-care tips
Then I created the podcast, "So You've Been Slut-shamed" to help those who have experienced debilitating shame. I began telling my story, little by little, of how I got into sex work. I began talking honestly about how I’ve felt ashamed of my sexuality since I can remember.
The more I tell, the more free I feel.
My new podcast about how I survived.
If you have been slut-shamed, you are likely suffering from self-doubt, from always feeling like you’re not good enough, and from nit-picking your appearance and your accomplishments.
I promise you there is hope. Join me on this journey and I'll show you everything I've done to find relief.
You deserve to be peaceful and happy again.
Love, Jerene
“Now I know the things I know, and I do the things I do; and if you do not like me so, to hell, my love, with you.”
Dorothy Parker
If I can recover from shame, so can you.
Resources
Take good care of yourself today,
no matter what.
For tips on overcoming debilitating stress, check out my blog
For tips on recovering from a slut-shaming, check out my podcast: So You’ve Been Slut-shamed
Please contact me if you need coaching/hypnotherapy to be free from sexual shame.
Email me: info@weneedacoach.com
I’m here for you!!!